When I dreamed about a fairytale ending to my marriage issues, my inner voice would often tell me there was a very small chance I would succeed.
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~Anna Quindlen Growing up, I refused to go to bed until I fit the last piece of my jigsaw puzzle.
That’s when I first understood that it could be difficult to give up, but I didn’t think my perseverance was a problem.
Soon after, however, I realized that blind persistence could turn into an exhausting and useless quest.
When something unjust happened to me or to someone I loved, I worked relentlessly to “make things right.” In many occasions, my attempts to fix a negative situation would only make matters worse.
Lack of excitement about achieving what you think you want probably means that you’ve become used to striving and never arriving.
It’s “what you do,” and this routine doesn’t serve you.
What would your life be like if you stopped trying?
Notice the first feeling that arrives when you ask this question.
I'm a single, non-religious Jewish male age 41, and have never been married or even engaged. But it never fails, only the girls I don't find attractive tend to be interested in me.